Gossip: a person who habitually reveals personal or sensational facts about others.
Debate: a contention by words or arguments.
Conversation: oral exchange of sentiments, observations, opinions, or ideas.
How do you describe a conversationalist? Maybe someone who is good at talking.
When describing qualities that are attractive in the opposite sex, someone “easy to talk to” or a “conversationalist” is usually toward the top of the list. Different people may desire different qualities, but if good communication is not a priority, usually bigger issues need to be dealt with. Knowing this is a desirable quality, many young hopefuls strive to be one to contribute to conversation. The problem is many ladies confuse this for gossip and many guys confuse it for debate. They think,
“Hey, as long as someone is talking, the conversation must be good.”
Good relationships have a strong foundation built on quality conversation. Simply talking about the weather or the days events, leads to nothing more than what I can find on my Yahoo! homepage. On the other hand, inappropriate facts about the personal lives of others or the endless debate where every option is explored, contended, refuted, and contended again are fruitless and hold no value. Look to be someone who has a healthy balance of self-revelation,the telling of personal struggles or achievements, and comments/advice/encouragement related to what is revealed to you by the other party. Vulnerability is key. The more open you are, the more comfortable they will be toward sharing about themselves. This doesn’t mean verbal vomit and to overload your listener with all your thoughts at once, but instead a few insights into your life in each conversation will strengthen trust and increase vulnerability in your relationship.
So guys, don’t try to be over intellectual with your “vast” knowledge and debating skills and ladies, leave out who’s shacking with whom or what she said about your hair. Look to become a conversationalist, not a master debater and gossip and your relationship will be in good shape.
